The Negative Programming Goes Both Ways:
However, sometimes men do these same things too; the same way, it was discussed about the way we act, early on in a relationship. Although, sometimes men do these same things too; the same way it was discussed about the way we act, early on in a relationship. That sexual act doesn't naturally make him want to commit to you. It's just something that happened. And yes, he wanted you physically because you turn him on as he does you, but he's probably still not ready for any serious commitment between the two of you. His tempo to commit is actually much lower.
This is why in most of my blog posts on relationship concerns; I suggest that we slow our tempo on having sexual intercourse right away. When I say you are giving away your power, I don't mean; power over your man, I mean your emotional stability and how you will feel when you realize that that wasn't the way to get him. It's just something that happened. Win or loose, you have to be adult about the outcome if and when you make adult decision and it might not turn out as you expected. These are life choices we make.
Because he wants to be here for you, be with you; he still doesn't want a committed relationship right now.
Let's slow your roll, let things flow naturally and have fun getting there, if it's indeed with this particular person. Imagine that he wants to take you on a romantic or fun trip that still doesn't mean that he wants an exclusive commitment. He loves being with you because you're a fund girl to be with. So, if you; ladies or men, expect to have an amazing relationship, we are going to need to become much more mature in our ability to be hones with ourselves and them in learning how to admit the way we honestly feel. Again, this has nothing to do with our learning to think newly and or differently, but just fine tune the way we already act. Just perfect it a bit in-as-much as we don't push him/them into something that they don't want or that probably scares them away. Truthfully, a lot of us are afraid of being pushed into a relationship that's not right for us and having to deal with the effort of getting ourselves out of it, unscathed. There has got to be a mutual give and take in a relationship for men to want to commit, and even for us to want to commit, for that matter.
Helpful Tips To Remember:
Here are some things to consider:
• If he only wants to hang out with you for, let's say... once a week or only once every two weeks, this is a man who isn't into you for a long term relationship. Now, if you can pick up on this most subtle language early enough, you won't get upset so easily. You'll just move one and not try to get revenge or to make it into something other than it is.
• Be more fun and playful in your mannerism around men, and people in general. You guy, and other men are watching you and consider that type of playful and openness to be very, very attractive. Men love to be around that sort of woman. This type of woman will leave whatever is troubling her at home, and when invited out to tea or dinner or a party, she's light, funny, engaging with all others and especially him. She is just plain fun to be around and is not overbearing or trying to dominate the evening or a situation. She just is! And, that makes her just that much more adorable. When you are interesting to be around and he realizes that you enjoy being with him, he wants to make you happy all the time, so he will choose you to join him on outings. He will even want to bring his friends around to meet this fun loving lovable girl that he's found. The kind of women most men want to marry.
• Pressure, to a man, is if you try to inflict your wants and desires on him and make him fell that he has no part or say in the process of where the relationship goes. That will certainly not be what will get him or keep him with you. In fact, he's long gone; first emotionally and then physically. You will find that first he will become much more distant and closed off just before you don't see him again.
• The question to ask yourself is; "how, or what can I do to help fulfill his needs for the desire of his wanting to remain or commit to me?" You should really try your best to put yourself in his shoes and then more, on how to please yourself and him will be revealed. Seeing him relaxed and happy will make you feel no stress, and be happier in return.
• Sometimes, it only takes listening, and not even so much as maturity. This is a whole new magic or the art of growing up emotionally; enough to share of ourselves with them. These things are contagious once you start to practice them.
• Again, a man loves to be with a woman that is always happy to be around him, because he feels that he can make her happy and that pleases and sort of empowers him where doing the right thing for her and himself is concerned.
These are great basic skills of relationships:
1. Identify your own needs (tell yourself what makes you happy)
2. Be able to share your needs verbally with them (tell them how to make you happy)
3. Get your needs met (do not always count of them to met your needs for you...learn to make yourself happy too)
4. Don't complain if he forgets to continue doing the things that make you happy and or if the process just stops (remember that it's your responsibility to make you happy, first)
5. Be grateful with what you have and don't be angry if it's not what you wanted (you learn and find out how to give yourself more)
6. Being able to help your partner with steps 2-3-4-5
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